Journey 2 Zendipity

Heartbreaks suck. They all really suck. There is no way around that.

However, there are certain heartbreaks that are so deep that it changes you. It changes you for the rest of your life. These heartbreaks are the ones that put you in spirals and shake up your whole fucking being.

Some heartbreaks hit so deep to the core that you have to relearn everything you knew about yourself and life. Some heartbreaks, change you for ever.

I’ve had my fair share of heartbreaks. Crushes that broke my heart, break ups that sucked, etc. but there have been 2 heartbreaks that changed my life. 2 heart breaks that changed me, forever. The first one was while I was pregnant, that shit was brutal. I think that was my first real heart break, my karma, if I’m honest. Long story. The second one was not better, or worse but different. It hit my core. This heartbreak .. uff. This one changed me the most.

Each heartbreak hits different because each love is different.

These two heartbreaks out of all of them were the two that I’ll forever remember. They changed me, my life, my future. These two heartbreaks will forever be, part of me.

What I ended up learning though is extraordinary love, extraordinary heart ache. Extraordinary love change your life, for the good or bad or both. So do these extraordinary heart breaks.

Now here’s the plot twist.

I also came to realize that it’s an extraordinary blessing. To love another person so fucking deep that the love and heartbreak can change your life. what an extraordinary blessing to have a love that deep.

So many people don’t have this or have had this. So many people pray for that love. Loves that are this deep are truly extraordinary blessings. As are the heartbreaks.

No one likes endings, heartbreaks suck royally. Yet, if someone works through it and puts in the effort to heal.. the person that shows up on the other side of the darkness is better. Braver. Stronger. Wiser.

Someone is better in the other side because you heal deeper parts of you. Your heart is cracked open, allows you to reach those deeper parts. Forces you to face the shit. Have more capacity for love, deeper love, extraordinary love again. Even if the extraordinary love brings an extraordinary heartbreak, that extraordinary love is so worth it.

Extraordinary love, regardless of the outcome is so incredibly worth it. Not everything is forever. Great movies and books have endings. Amazing trips too. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take them because they have an ending. You should still read that book, watch that movie, experience that trip.

Extraordinary love can mean Extraordinary heartbreak but that’s because big love requires big mourning.

If you’re going through a heartbreak, know that I’m sending you love. Know that it’s okay and there will be brighter days. Know that it will change your life but doesn’t have to be for the bad. Know that you’re stronger than you feel. Most importantly know that the love you felt, feel and heartbreak will change you but you have the choice of how you’ll allow it to change you.

I know for me, my extraordinary love and extraordinary heartbreak changed me. Changed my life. I’ll never be the same again. For that, I am grateful.

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P.s. abuse is not extraordinary or love and not every love will end.