Journey 2 Zendipity

Today I was talking to my kid about a crazy/terrifying/exciting idea that I’ve been really considering.
RV life for a year with him.

Just my kid and I getting to experience life in a full dose.
Traveling.
Nature.
Making Memories.
Mild Technology use (aside from school and work).
Simplicity at its finest.

Oh, it brings me so much joy and today I just got absolutely inspired to research further and talk about it.

I spoke to my brother, who I know would be supporting.
I spoke to my kids dad, who I knew probably wouldn’t be. Though he wasn’t not supporting either, very impressed.
Then most importantly, my son.

It was about 2 hours that we sat and talked about the options.
The hopes and wishes of what this would be as well as the struggle and realistic expectations.
He wasn’t automatically at a no but definitely wasn’t a yes.

We left it as we will keep discussing it, but at some point towards the end of the conversation, I started really talking to him even more like a person and less like a teenager. I try to do this more times than not.
I started asking him the why for a ‘yes’, why for aat ‘no’. What his concerns were. What his excitement was.

Then it really hit me out of nowhere, my dreams of traveling are not his dreams.
Even more so, our outlook on life is very different, and not just because of the different generations.
So I did something I hadn’t done before…

I took a beat and asked him what HIS values were.

My goodness, y’all. His response blew me away.

His response was, his family(God included) was his priority and most important value.
Making memories with his family, primarily his siblings. That his main ‘no’ was over the fact that him making memories with his siblings was much more important to him than traveling and experiencing a mountain or canyon.

The conversation was incredible.

Then I asked him if he wanted to travel, if he gets excited at the idea of visiting new places, or ever looks at places and thinks he’d like to visit. He said, not really.
His excitement comes from other moments that he can have right here.

His making memories with his family is equivalent to the feeling I get when I land in a new place and get to experience nature.
WOW

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Incredible.

I am always full of love for my child but today I felt this level of respect for this kid. Such pride.

Not only is he very clear on his values, but he stood tall in them today.
He didn’t hesitate, he didn’t stutter, he didn’t think twice.

I saw a level of confidence I hadn’t seen in him before.

I am just amazed by this kid.

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It’s incredible that we walk this path together but with such different views of life.
My son, my “baby”, saying that was so mind-blowingly beautiful. It also really opened my eyes to the realness of how different our lives have been.

I’m here thinking that traveling the world and getting to experience this once-in-a-lifetime thing is what he needs, and he sees it as he’s got all he needs right here.

Wow.

His highest value is his family and God.
I love my family but we do not have that kind of bond. We go years without seeing each other and extremely long periods of time without talking.

He’s going to be one hell of a man one day. ❤

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If you haven’t done this in a while, this is your reminder to reconnect with your values.
Check in with yourself and see if your current place, your bullseyes, or your ways of life align with your values. Are you still walking towards your bullseyes? Do your choices align with your values?
If not, maybe it’s time we all came back to the drawing board.

Sending y’all so much love.
Today & Always,

-K