Journey 2 Zendipity

I was talking to a friend early and as I was giving her advice about setting her boundaries I realized something so important. Boundaries are shit without discipline to follow through.

It’s common sense right? Of course, we have to have discipline to keep our boundaries, but jeez…

I often set my boundaries and remain strong for as long as I have the motivation and lack of fear, but that’s when discipline must kick in. In those moments where fear is overwhelming and motivation is no where to be found. Those moments are so important, those are the ones that make us feel like freaking champions for staying strong. It’s like passing a really hard test that you didn’t think you could pass.

Here is the plot twist though, having boundaries is a piece of having self respect but DISCIPLINE is where that self respect is rooted. In my opinion.

Here, I’ll give you an example.. sad but true story.

If someone is holding out from getting physical until being in a committed relationship or marriage but then the make out sessions make the walls sweat for us, we are dancing on the line. Pushing boundaries. Only discipline can keep you from doing something that you may, oe may not, regret. However, if it ends up being something you really didn’t want to do but allowed the moment and temporary feelings to break that well then you start carrying pieces of shame. Then it’s like well, f it, we already did this.. we can do this. Then the boundary line gets pushed a little more, and a little more. Until there is no boundary line left because it’s discipline what makes it through the goal line. Not just motivation. Motivation is a temporary emotion.

Boundaries are so important. Boundaries are crucial but without discipline it’s like a list of goals with no goal date.

Brb yall, they arrive for my tire! Woot woot lol

Anddd I’m back..

The more I think about it, how beautiful is it to be a human with free will. I mean , yea being human can suck at times but imagine having no control over actions.

We got this yall.

For this coming new year, I’m wishing yall lessons, love, solid boundaries and extraordinary discipline!

Until next time y’all,

-K