Going from Spirituality to Christianity isn’t incredibly different on most aspects but I’ve seen the biggest difference in dating and “talking” to someone.
I am first hand learning the importance of dating someone who shares your views and beliefs from the core. Let me line up some of the things I’ve ran into.
1 – Time Spent
I enjoy my days/nights at the church. I feel so peaceful, so happy and full on all levels when I get to worship. It’s like I walk in one person in one mood and walk out a whole different way. Every single time.
To some, this time at church, will be taken as cutting into “their” time.
2 – Bible Studies
I am walking into this journey, not sprinting, because this is part of who I am. Not a hobby. I don’t just want my bible studies, I NEED my bible studies. I need this time alone and with others more mature that can help me untangle my thoughts about what I’m learning or struggling with. Again, more time.
3 – Church
I cannot imagine marrying someone who would just be home while I’m at Church. Someone I can’t come home and talk about what we learned with. I want my parter to be right there, having their own moment with our Heavenly Father. Plus, I’d love to hold my persons hand oneway during one of those cute, moving sermons lol. Yea.. I’m human dude.
4 – Tithing
Oh, this is a big one.
Currently we are learning about tithing. We are learning first hand what the word says about tithing, the importance of it and why it’s done. MANNNN it’s a tough one to swallow but one thing is for sure, if two parties in the marriage are not on the same page about tithing… it could be some big issues. You know? Money issues are up there on marital stress.
5 – Outtings & “Fun”
My outings may not look the same as everyone else.
I don’t usually party for two reasons anyways; 1 I feel way younger than I am until I’m around way younger people, then realize I need WD40 for my knees and a comfy bed stat. 2 I don’t usually fit in. This is nothing spiritual, just my introvert and extrovert personalities fighting. My fun is the silly thing, I want to be a big kid.
I love to dance, to explore, adventures, and experience new things, but I don’t need to be on anything to enjoy life. I don’t need a drink to dance. I have a natural high energy. Just hand me a crispy fountain soda and I’m great haha. I’ll dance anywhere, anytime! (well depending the music, I am painfully aware my dancing talent is limited to some genres only. ) What has changed not his one the most is the places I am comfortable going to. I think twice now before I walk into certain places, or hang out around certain situations. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who would not have the same perspective and get caught in a weird spot.
6 – Dating Reasons
This is a big one. Dating reasons.
It was always a little interesting because I learned as a teen, from the sister of someone I liked who scared the crap out of me, that the real purpose of dating was to find the person you want to marry. I freaked and ran from her sibling but it stuck with me always.
I ignored it in the past because I was lonely and wasn’t sure how I felt about marriage, still learning, but now.. totally.
I don’t want to date to just fill in space and time. I am dating to meet the person I want to remain young with as we grow older.
7 – Fears & Struggles
Part of life is the rollercoaster of the ups and downs. The way those fears and struggles are handled is a HUGE part of what I look at when I’m “talking” to someone. They need to be solid at their core and I have learned that it looks different for everyone.
8 – Last but certainly not least – Celibacy
Oh yeah, y’all knew I was going to put this in there.
This one has been the QUICKEST make or break lol.
If you’ve been following my healing journey then you know I was abstinent for years and then learned the difference between abstinence and celibacy.
Almost every “talking” stage I’ve had has ended because of this topic. Sex and waiting.
This is SO important to be on the same page with.
I have stood on business a lot better than I thought I could, lol ,but I’ve learned that when my guard is down and my will isn’t that strong, someone will run through and try to have me cave. Simply because they don’t understand and are human.
Celibacy is about so much more than just waiting until marriage.
I am sure there is other parts of dating that will be different, it’s only been a couple years since I really started shifting my perspective and I’m just now moving more into dating. Dating alone is rough. Sheesh. So I’m sure I’ll be back to share as this continues. 🙂
Wish me luck y’all,
This whole plenty fish in the ocean thing really didn’t take into account the polluted fish lol.
Have an amazing day ❤
Sending you so so much love!
With Love,
-K
Journey 2 Zendipity 