suc·cess
/səkˈses/
noun
- the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
Did you read that definition? Read it again.
The ACCOMPLISHMENT of an aim or PURPOSE.
It does not say the accomplishment of obtaining 6 figures, it does not say having a family and birthing 12 little one’s. It simply says, the accomplishment OF a purpose. In the literal definition, it does NOT SPECIFY what success looks like.
Do you understand why it doesn’t specify the accomplishment?
It doesn’t specify which accomplishment because it’s not a general thing, success is a personalized bullseye.
If your goal is 6 figures, then yes! Reaching a financial income of 6 figures IS considered success.
If your goal is to have a family and have 12 kids, then yes! Having that incredible family is considered a success.
If your dream and goal is to create beautiful music for the rest of your life, and you get to do just that, then that too is success!
We should be asking each other if we are successful and what success means to them! Personally, I rather ask if they are happy.
I believe success can be generalized in obvious situations, but when talking about a life long success, I think we shouldn’t assume what their success looks like. I also believe we should stop thinking we have any right to give a flop about if someone else is successful, UNLESS we are wanting to know solely to celebrate with them. To truly be happy for them. If that’s not why you’re asking, mind your neck. Worry about whether you consider yourself successful and worry less about someone else’s.
Same in return! If someone asks you if you’re successful. Only YOU can decide that. So decide that. Are you successful? If so, why? If not, why not?
We should also keep in mind that we are continuously evolving!
What we considered a goal in our 20s, definitely does not have to match our goals in our 30’s.
Hell, even day-to-day! That means what we consider to be a success in 20’s, 30’s, 60’s,80’s can change!
Today, my only goal was to have a good time, I was successful today. Today was a grand success.
The day before, my only goal was to get the laundry done.
Tomorrow it may be to get a blog written and published.
I have hit most of my goals in my career, I do consider myself successful (at times). The goals I didn’t hit, I later realized I failed to learn better and hit other goals. Other times I do not feel successful.
I met a man a couple of weeks ago who I personally felt had truly reached a level of success that felt purer than most versions of success.
Most successful people I have met feel so ill with themselves about them NOT feeling successful enough, not feeling good enough.
This man though could clearly see his dream, his goal, his version of success and his aligned journey towards it. It is an unconventional success and many won’t agree until he has hit that goal but he’s been living out his passion and dreams – that’s fucking amazing.. Isn’t that what life is about? Happiness?
His was inspiring because though he hasn’t hit his version of success, he is so damn clear on what that bullseye is and has never quit chasing his dreams. Never let another persons comments deter him from remaining aligned with that bullseye and maybe at times he’s had temporary moments but it didn’t stop hi. I can’t imagine him not making it, not with that determination, discipline and passion.
I have been blessed to meet 4 incredible souls in my lifetime that have never given up on their dreams (I’m talking about childhood to adulthood dreams) and damn, I am so proud to know them.
Sweet soul, please stop judging yourself and evaluating yourself based on others versions of happiness and success.
Decide what YOUR version of success looks like. Then, feel proud of yourself even for a minute before you go on kicking yourself in the ass for the next item.
Will everyone agree with your version of success? Absolutely not. Most people don’t even agree on basic human rights! So don’t let those people discourage you. After all, you’re the one that has the honor of living with yourself until the last breath.
You got this you successful bad ass!!!! I see you!
I’m sorry if it was all over the place but I hope this resonated in some way, with some of you. I truly believe some of you are magic and feeling less than because of others ideas of what your success and life should look like.
I am sending you so much love sweet soul. I hope you have a beautiful day!
With love,
-K
Journey 2 Zendipity 
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